Healthy Boundaries

Set healthy boundaries to significantly improve your relationships & self-esteem. Did you know that getting your subconscious mind on board helps? 

Setting healthy boundaries with other people in your life is an important part of establishing your identity and is a crucial aspect of mental health and self-care. Weak boundaries lead to anxiety, higher stress levels, feelings of being taken advantage of, disrespected, not acknowledged and are often linked to unhealthy relationships. On the other hand, if you establish your personal boundaries based on your needs and desires, you will improve your relationships, feel more empowered and have more energy for what is important to you.

Do you need to strengthen your boundaries? Signs of weak or non-existing boundaries

Do you find it difficult to say no to people? Do you feel that you do not get the respect you deserve? Do you change your plans to go along with friends? Do you feel guilty when you can’t help a friend or a family member? Do you feel resentful towards people or situations, which you had previously agreed to? Do you feel like you are constantly overgiving or that others drain your energy?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then this blog post is just what you need. To have a deep understanding of this topic, we need to define what healthy boundaries are. 

What are healthy boundaries? 

Having healthy boundaries is simply letting other people know and be open about what is and is not OK with you. It is the space between you and them, which you get to regulate. It is clear communication that respects yourself and others based on your values, what matters most to you, your personal rules and limitations. 

The importance of healthy boundaries

Having healthy boundaries is necessary for developing healthy relationships not just with others, but also with yourself because it all starts with acknowledging your needs and desires. When you don’t acknowledge your needs and trespass your own boundaries, you prove to yourself that it’s ok to treat you with disrespect. Others will easily pick up on that. 

Respecting what is and is not OK with you is a sign of love and respect towards your personal strengths, abilities, and uniqueness as well as those of others. When you are clear on your boundaries with other people and you treat yourself with respect, they will do the same. However, if you have been ignoring your own needs for a while and let other people trespass the line, you might need to start with some of the below tools to get yourself started. 

For many people, it is difficult to establish and maintain their own personal boundaries or to say no to others. Instead, they try to please others at all costs. They work until they feel exhausted, do favours in all directions, allow others to manipulate them into doing things which they don’t want to do and end up feeling stressed, drained, unhappy, overwhelmed and anxious. In the long run, having weak boundaries can have devastating consequences for one’s personal physical and mental health. 

Establishing healthy and strong boundaries with people who are close to you might feel terrifying. It might even feel threatening to your relationships, but it will have a positive effect long-term. For some people, setting healthy boundaries will make it clear to them who doesn’t have their best interest at heart and who has been benefiting from the lack of strong boundaries. 

Being assertive in any relationship is beneficial for both sides because boundaries and the ability to say no are key to a healthy and genuine relationship. People often give in, because they don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings, but this could easily result in them feeling resentful. Have you ever agreed to help someone, because you wanted to be polite just to regret it later on?  

Get your subconscious mind on board to make lasting changes

Someone, who has not been drawing the line between what is and is not OK with other people, can find it quite hard or almost impossible to refuse a request, say no or state their needs. This is when hypnosis can assist not only with speeding up the process, but also with helping you to communicate your boundaries in a positive way while feeling empowered. When you work with a qualified hypnotherapist, you will delve deeper into the above tips as well as explore other avenues, while utilising the power of your subconscious mind. 

Firstly, with the right use of hypnosis, you are able to easily identify the areas in your life where you need to strengthen your boundaries and become more assertive. You will acknowledge and accept your needs  without the usual feelings of guilt and discomfort. 

Furthermore, hypnotherapy helps you bring about a deep inner change more comfortably and easily while you gain in confidence, because with the right support, setting stronger boundaries does not have to be a painful process, it can be a truly powerful transformation of growing your self-belief and confidence. Hypnosis can also help one access their inner resources needed to make a lasting transformation in one’s life. 

Have you struggled to communicate your needs in the past? Has it always been accompanied by discomfort in your body? Well, hypnotherapy can change this for good and ‘programme’ your mind so that communicating your boundaries becomes your second nature.

Stepanka Kuralova
Stepanka is a qualified clinical hypnotherapist, confidence coach and neuro-linguistic programing practitioner. Her approach to hypnotherapy and coaching has been also influenced by cognitive behavioural therapy and cognitive behavioural hypnotherapy. She helps her clients to overcome anxiety, fears and insecurities, so that they can feel confident, empowered and start living the life of their dreams. She is a big believer that we all have unlimited potential and the power to turn our lives around. She is also a creator of an online support group for women on Facebook and The Inner Glow Podcast.